How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

My daughter is 9, in the 3rd grade and has had problems with behavior since she was about 3. She definitely has anger issues and insecurities. She has been to counselors and therapist and to no avail it seems she always end up at it again, teasing and bullying other kids. She has been teased herself about her hair (curly) and her weight (she is a bit overweight). We give her constant positive reinforcement at home and tell her how smart and beautiful she is. She isnt happy with herself and I don't know what else I can do to be supportive with her to make her happy with herself and like herself. We just finished up an 8 week class of kidshape, a program for kids and parents that teaches healthy alternatives and new excercises for kids and parents and teaches self esteem tactics. I think she benefitted from it. Today I received a call from her teacher that she is up to her same old tricks of teasing and bullying. I think this all stems from insecurities. What do I do now?

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

I appreciate your efforts to find the root cause of the behavior, and try to correct it there. You clearly are covering all your bases and really trying to make a difference.

However, bad behavior is bad behavior, and cannot be allowed just because you know the reason she's doing it. I think you're going to have to do some tough-love, and punish the bad behavior as it occurs. As you said, she's intelligent, and seems to be perfectly capable of understanding how wrong it is.

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

well teach her a lesson when she is bullied she'll learn it's not nice.

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

show her a video on how bad bullying can affect someones life.

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

u woop her a** if u ask me. she need some displine in her. the thing is dat u dont hit her enough or never. but do dat n she will learn to stop bullyin/ teasing trust me

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

i agree with u

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

It's probably because of her weight, dont have soda at the house anywhere diet or not and only keep healthy things to eat around the house because as long as she is bigger then everyone else and has a reason to have a low self esteem then she is going to keep doing it.

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

have you tried the good old fashion method bust her butt and ground her? It worked for my 5 kids, their grew up to be loving caring parents, and gentlemen. Good manners, good morales never hurt anyone.

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

she may be bullied by an older sibling. that was what my problem was. Does she have any friends? Some children who have no friends use bullying as a way to communicate because they feel they have no other way to get people to notice them.

As for self esteem pay attention to her wants/needs? Maybe she wants to go shopping or have a day where she can go and get her hair done... like cut and styled.

Positive reinforcement is everything you can do, especially when she is being teased herself.

i wish you luck

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

you might have to give her a punishment every time she does that

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

Try teasing her at home and at the end of the day ask her how she felt when you teased her on her down falls. Then explain to her that that is the way other children feel when she patronizes them. If that doesn't work a good ol fashion spanking should do the trip.

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

I am not a fan of medicating every kid that has a problem but you might at this point look into it. You may just have to keep going and going and going through therapy with her. My daughter had behavioral problems for years. I did what you are doing just constantly going to therapy with her. She is now 17 and about to graduate high school and is going to college in the fall. She is doing so much better, although there are still some rough moments, but for the most part does just fine.

Good luck to you!

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

put her on punishment when she bullies.

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

its in any psychology book you pick up. its negative reimbursement. when she does something bad treat it negatively. the same when she does something good. im no psychologist but when children act out like that there are usually other things going on in their lives. talk to her. find out what it is that causes your daughter to act the way she does.

it could be that her parents are divorced, or she doesnt get enough attention, children are not usually hard to figure out the source of problems

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

I pray I never get this phone call. We do what we can as parents, and even with the best of intentions, things just don't seem to work out as we planned.

It looks like you have tried almost everything. But I don't see where she's been punished for what she is doing. I am a avid believer in positive reinforcement, but that doesn't work without a negative.

We have recently implemented the point system in my house. My children are allowed 10 points a day, and need all 10 points to ride their bikes (their favorite activity, right now). 8 to keep their tv on, 6 for computer time, 4 for outside time and so on.

Name calling, talking back, general meanness, fighting, all cost them two points. Having to repeatedly ask them to do things (pick up their toys, shoes, clothes, etc) cost them a point for every extra time I'm forced to ask.

They are able to earn points back during the day. If I see them being helpful with each other, doing chores that weren't asked of them, using their manners as they were taught, etc, they get one point back.

Since they are only allowed 10 points a day, any points they have over that, at bedtime, we bank. Once they both get 25 extra points they get to choose one fun thing to do as a family. (Chuck E Cheese, feeding the ducks, going to the zoo/amusement park, etc)

It is working really REALLY well in my house. We are teaching them that when they do really great things, they get really great things. When they do really bad things, bad things happen.

Good luck to you.

How do I stop my daughter from teasing/bullying?

Don't resort to hitting her... It won't work. She will just end up scared of you and resenting you. It could totally ruin your relationship forever!

Maybe you need some proffesional help. Im not saying she has some sort of problem! But a couseller could help her work through her problams and could explain to you maybe why she is.